HOW TO: LIVE PASSIONATELY
“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.”—Anonymous
Engraved with the colour red, the red success bracelet is one of the 8 different colours in the collection and it symbolizes the small yet big success that lays in the heart of each one of us.
At BYOS by Melissa Curry, we create beautiful jewellery to make a positive impact on the wellbeing of young people. Our jewellery aims to create a feeling of strength, of joy, of hope, of connection, of boldness, and of success beyond adversity.
That is why we are supporting JIGSAW and their work in raising awareness and providing valuable resources on youth mental health.
“For me, life is about living in the now. I don’t think you’re really living when you are caught up in the past or worries about the future” –
Avice wears Life represented by the colour red.
SWITCH ON YOUR SENSES
What do we think of when we see the colour red? Most people think of blood and heat. The colour red famously represents physical love, adventure and energy. All of which is a primary combination of what makes up life.
We are biological beings, with need for direct empirical stimulation and connections. To touch, smell, taste, hear, see beyond blue light. We need to experience the world through our senses, fully tuned in to our bodily sensations. This is a basic fact that is often left in the backdrop in our current technological age, with so much emphasis on simulation, we often end up paying more attention to the virtual realities and connections on our devices than to our actual experiences.
Social media and digital technologies have transformed the way we communicate with each other and experience the world, there is a myriad of potential for storytelling and networking lots of solutions and content to stimulate our minds. But too much of everything is bad and alot of us are prone to spending an excessive amount of time on our phones at inappropriate times.
What are the consequences of our excessive connectivity? Walking into lamp poles, oncoming traffic, bumping into another person. Head bent over our phones–in meetings, in church, in restaurants,while driving, while eating, while conversing, while trying to get to sleep– we cradle our devices like the fragile bodies of children, protecting their glass and metallic casings from any kind of damage.
The worst of which is that we neglect our physical and immediate lives. If only we switched that level of attention and care to our bodies and our relationships, how much happier, calmer, and energized would we feel? We can train our minds to switch off from the constant red notification buttons on our phone screens and be present in our own lives and experiences. Through the practise of self care and mindfulness we can balance the stimulation we get from that virtual online space and learn to fully experience the world with our senses, not just camera lenses.
LIVE WITH PASSION, GRATITUDE AND INTENTION
Passion makes life so much more interesting. But we have to create it or find it and sustain it, it’s our choice to create a life that is interesting and worth sustaining through dark and difficult times.
We can always be mindful of where our attention is at different moments. Strive to curb distraction through various means, because it is more important bring our attention back to the moment with the people we love than to be rearranging, reminiscing or ruminating in our mental mess.
We can learn to find ease in just sitting in a chair, with a tea in hand, no external stimulation, not focusing on inner chatter, just breathing deeply, noticing the rhythm of our chest rising and falling, noticing the warm of the mug in our plans, the clammy caress of the steam on our face, the wetness of the rim of the mug against our lips, what does it taste like? How does the warm brew feel going down our throats and how does it feel sitting in our stomachs? We need to pay attention to the simplest experience, otherwise we miss out on small pleasures.
It is vital that young people be taught how to balance visiting the past, living in the present and planning for the future.
Because the focus of enquiry at that age is usually future-orientated, and trying to answer myriad inquiries of what one wants to do or be or study in the near future can be quite stressful and overwhelming. The constant pressure of future orientated queries can make a young person crave a return to a simpler, less stressful time when no one was asking any of the questions that causes us a high level of stress and anxiety. This creates nostalgia and a certain sadness that the life we enjoyed the most is gone and can only be accessed in our memories. We need to find out ways to limit the negative impact of society’s expectations on our mental wellbeing.
Life is short. Despite how long and tedious some moments can feel, if we keep this existential fact and common human plight in mind, we can become to experience and express more gratitude for each moment we are gifted with everyday.
We can choose to be passionate about life, about our relationships, friendships, the work we do, the art we make–to take life as it comes, to let it move us, inspire us and transform us in positive ways–keeping our hearts open to the big and small adventures in life.
Entropy is a unique word, that originates in the theory of thermodynamics, but it has its place in our everyday lives. It can be interpreted to mean that a degree of chaos and uncertainty is part of existence.
Thus it requires acceptance and should be regarded with wry optimism.
Spending our time overly worrying and stressing over things is a poor use of mental energy and our limited lifetime.
So many of the events or activities on which we concentrate our anxieties, catastrophizing every aspect of the event or activity, can simply be worked on, taken care of and left to unfold in its own way.
Once we’ve made a sufficient amount of effort at fixing problems in life–be it in our relationships, friendships, work, academic life-we can let go our need to control all of it.
A certain of disorder, and unpredictability makes life all the more interesting and adds passion to our mundane daily grind!