Three Resolutions Everyone Could Use To Encourage A More Positive 2019
The years seem to be flying by and 2018 has been no exception. Despite some globally monumental events this year, we instead want to take a moment to reflect on our personal journey this year and encourage you to do the same.
First of all, lets all give ourselves a little pat on the back. Whether your 2018 contained triumph, tragedy, or a little of both, you made it through each day to the very finish and that in itself is an accomplishment worth celebrating. Even if at times you didn’t make it out of bed or feel like speaking to anyone, just seeing through your darkest days to the end shows commendable strength and is something to be proud of.
Whilst we are aware that the term ‘New Year’s resolution’ can cause some to roll their eyes or sigh with cynicism, it can’t be denied that a New Year is a great motivator to draw a line and start fresh. It symbolises a new beginning and chance to try something for the first time as well as an opportunity to leave bad habits and negativity in the past wherever possible.
With that in mind, we are looking forward to 2019 with some resolutions of our own, to encourage a healthy and happy year ahead.
- Practise Self Love
The self love and self care movement has been huge this year and we are all for it. When looking back on the most recent 365 days, if your first thoughts go straight to what you didn’t achieve rather than what you did, this one is particularly for you. A huge part of self love and acceptance is being less judgemental and hard on yourself. Forgive yourself, accept yourself and allow yourself time to heal and re-charge when necessary. Down days are inevitable, especially to those struggling with mental health issues such as depression, but accepting yourself rather than punishing yourself for feeling these emotions will really help ease the suffering. Don’t forget to treat yourself too. Whether it’s buying yourself flowers, indulging in wine or chocolate, or simply making time for yourself to relax – do it, you deserve it!
- Try not to compare yourself to others
You will have heard this 100 times but I will say it again – everyone is on their own journey. In this social media centric time, we have virtual access to people’s lifestyles from around the world and after a few minutes of scrolling it’s only inevitable to find someone with enviable qualities or accomplishments that you wish were your own. An important point to remember here is that people post only what they want you to see, and this will rarely include failures, unflattering selfies and days spent at home on the couch. Even after logging out of social media apps, family, friends and co-workers around us can also make us feel comparably inadequate, but this mindset can be overcome. It’s cliché but true to say that the only person you should aim to be better than is the person you were yesterday, so try to focus on yourself and block out the comparisons. Besides, if everyone were the same it would be a rather boring world to live in and here at BYOS we love to celebrate everyone’s beautiful uniqueness.
- Cut out negativity – where possible
Now, it’s of course impossible to cut out everything that puts a stress on us in life, otherwise there would be no such things as bills, mean bosses or critical in-laws. However, if something is triggering your anxiety or depression and you don’t have to deal with it, then don’t. If going on social media makes you feel miserable about your life, log out. If your busy schedule is making you stressed, take a break. If your ‘friend’ or family member who is always putting you down wants to see you, re-schedule for when you are feeling strong enough or even consider telling them how you feel as they might not actually be aware. As said, there are some things in life that sadly can’t be changed, but if you can remove any bad energy and surround yourself with as much positivity as possible, you will notice a significant change to your mood and wellbeing.
Wishing you all a happy and healthy New Year,
Melissa, Alex, Josie, Anne, Emma, Bianca