What is Self-Esteem ?
Confidence. Self-worth. Value. Respect. Self-esteem has many meanings, but its influence is often underestimated. From the time we are children, our self-esteem shapes our personalities, inspirations, goals, relationships, and passions. By the time we enter adulthood, it molds our opportunities and challenges. It plays out in numerous ways in our day-to-day lives: job hunting, dating, and even our social media presence. As a result, we constantly face questions that test our confidence:
Our personal and professional lives are a constant cycle of weighing ourselves against others. As we’ve all heard, we are our own worst critics, even enemies. Social media can aid or worsen this self-judgment. Unfortunately,we can’t “turn off” this reflection.
This endless cycle of comparison, negative thoughts and doubt can lead to low self-esteem, deepening our anxieties and fears. Those who suffer from a lack of confidence are vulnerable, often struggling through a myriad of emotional challenges. At the same time, people with significantly high self-esteem are perceived as being over-confident or vain. Essentially, we can’t win!
Here at BYOS, we believe that a healthy balance of esteem improves your well-being internally, allowing you to radiate from the inside out. Be confident, believe in yourself while constantly striving to be a better person. Reminding yourself of what you do have rather than what you don’t will allow you to value your life, appreciating the unique traits you bring to those surrounding you to ultimately be satisfied within.
A greater discussion of self-esteem is more important than ever for millennials and younger generations. Our value is constantly being questioned by parents, peers, job security, the economy and digital changes. By opening a dialogue on self-esteem, we can strengthen our connection with ourselves mentally and with others. High self-esteem gives us permission to not only love ourselves, but to care for and support others. We can motivate and inspire the people around us.
If you are feeling low and alone, don’t be afraid to talk to someone. Remember a problem shared is a problem halved, allowing you to take some weight off your shoulders and realizing that your problem is not as bad as you may think. Your friends and family will support you in every crisis you find yourself in. Also, it is perfectly normal to get professional help if you don’t want to share your problems with others- its their job to help you in any way they can! Here are a few numbers to call if you are feeling down:
Samaritans: 116 123
Aware: 1800 80 48 48
Turn2Me: 1890 474 474
Appraise your traits that set you aside from others, be kind to yourself and remember you are worthy. Working on your self esteem is a personal experience, a journey to your own happiness and fulfillment in life, don’t underestimate yourself.